Kaia Scott, LH, a behavioral health licensed therapist with The Everett Clinic discusses control. Feeling out of control often brings people to seek help. Often people try to control things they can't which leads them to feeling helpless. Professional help can provide some tools for understanding what you can control. Identifying how you are reacting and looking at situations can cause you to react in a different way which results in a positive reaction from other people. That reinforcement can create a change in behavior and eventually a habit will be formed.